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A Letter to My Teenage Daughter: God Made You Special

January 12, 2017 by Tracey 13 Comments

Dear Daughter,

To quote a famous novel, “It was the best of times, it was the worst of times…”  (You know I’m a Dickens fan, though I’ve never made it all the way through A Tale of Two Cities. 😉

I think that captures what it’s like to be a teenage girl sometimes.

On a good day, life is, like, ultimately good, like, happiness unbounded, like, dancing around the house and hugging your sister.  Yes, that marks the best of times indeed.

Then there are the worst of times.  The tears for no reason…though those are better than the tears flowing because of a friend’s betrayal, or a classroom humiliation, or rejection from some group to which you so desperately wanted to belong.  The worst of times brings self doubt, and a critical eye turned inward, and sometimes, a broken spirit.

On those days in particular, I want you to remember that God made you special.

I know you think I’m just saying that because I’m your mom…and I am.  But I’m also saying it because it’s true.

In these teen years, while you’re growing and changing and learning who you really are, it’s easy to want to be someone else.  You see what makes a certain girl popular, why that girl has so many friends, how she seems to know just what to say or do to attract boys.  Perhaps it’s that other girl’s confidence when she gets up in speech class or another friend’s ability to excel in every sport that you want for yourself.  And maybe you feel less than, inadequate, because you don’t have those same skills.

It’s so easy to say “be comfortable in your own skin.”  Yet sometimes you can feel like your skin doesn’t fit, that it doesn’t look right to other people, that it’s not who you want to be.

But who you are is special.  God created you.  He tells us in Psalm 139 that we are fearfully and wonderfully made.

Yes, you know that phrase, “fearfully and wonderfully made.”  But that’s certainly not always the first thought you have about yourself.  Let’s dig into it for a minute and see what it means.

In the original Hebrew text of the Bible, the word fearfully means with great reverence, heart-felt interest, and with respect. The word wonderfully means unique, set apart, marvelous [Darling Magazine, May 2012]

You were created with great reverence and heart-felt interest,  The very God of the universe is interested in you and in how your life plays out every day.  You are unique and marvelous, a one-of-a-kind creation.  Every personality trait, every quirk, the activities you enjoy, the pursuits you’re really good at ~ they’re all gifts from a Creator who makes no mistakes.

Introverted or extroverted, musical or artistic, a watcher or a doer, detail-oriented or a free spirit, you are the way you are for a reason.  God has a plan for your life, a purpose for you to fulfill, a life to live that no one else can live in the same way.  You’re not exactly like anyone else, and that’s just how it should be.

Remember these three important things.

You are made in the image of God.  Cultivate that part of you that longs for a relationship with Him.  Let His love, peace, and grace seep into your soul.

Be authentic.  Like what you like, be who you are, don’t conform to fit someone else’s standard for you.  Be gracious, kind, and thoughtful, but be you.

Give grace to all those girls around you.  In spite of what it may look like from your vantage point, they have doubts and insecurities just like you do. You might never know how an encouraging word helps them through their own difficult day.

So, on those worst of days, my dearest daughter, take heart.  God has a plan for you, a plan to bring you a future full of hope and promise. (Jeremiah 29:11)  He will never leave you or fail you.  (Deuteronomy 31:8)

And your dad and I?  We’re your biggest fans, your loudest cheerleaders, your prayer warriors.

We love you, just the way you are.

Love,

Mom

Related posts:
A Letter to My Teenage Daughter:  Hold Onto Your Heart
7 Ways to Show Love to Your Teenage Daughter
10 Bible Verses for Teens to Memorize

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Comments

  1. Nikki says

    January 12, 2017 at 6:30 pm

    I think we can all use a letter like this. 🙂 Thanks for sharing it!

    How do your daughters read these letters? Here online? Handwritten by you before posting? I'm just curious. 🙂

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    • Nikki says

      January 12, 2017 at 6:31 pm

      Oh, and I just thought about something. If you decide to read the book I just reviewed, you should start with the novella first. It gives some background information, and it's free on kindle.

      Reply
    • Tracey Brewer says

      January 12, 2017 at 7:11 pm

      While I have handwritten them personal letters before, I just let them read the ones I publish on the blog online after they've posted.

      With the last letter I wrote about holding on to your heart, I actually e-mailed the link to my older daughter, then told her to check her e-mail and read it. 🙂 While the girls know that I blog, they aren't regular readers, and don't even access much content online (other than episodes of old TV shows like Andy Griffith and Hogan's Heroes 😉 Only my 16-year-old has email at this point, and she rarely checks it. I'll just pull up the posts on my computer for our 14-year-old to read.

      Reply
  2. CE Watson says

    January 12, 2017 at 8:47 pm

    Precious, Tracey. And I can see some real wisdom here for us ladies who are far beyond our teen years, yet still struggling some days with who we are in Christ. Thank you for sharing! Chris

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    • Tracey Brewer says

      January 13, 2017 at 1:16 pm

      Thank you ~ and yes, I think many of us ladies continue to struggle with some of these insecurities at times. Hope you and your family are well!

      Reply
  3. Connie Tillman says

    January 13, 2017 at 5:16 pm

    my oldest has strayed from God – this is perfect reminder to send her! Thank you!

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    • Tracey Brewer says

      January 13, 2017 at 5:21 pm

      Saying a prayer for your oldest ~ thank you for taking the time to comment here.

      Reply
  4. Sues says

    January 17, 2017 at 11:13 pm

    This is PURE GOLD!!!

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  5. Elizabeth says

    March 3, 2018 at 2:50 pm

    A beautiful treasure, this, Tracey. Your daughters are blessed to have you…as you are to have them.

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    • Tracey says

      March 5, 2018 at 7:42 am

      Thank you, Elizabeth!! I need that encouragement often 😉 just as I need wisdom to handle the parenting of their precious souls.

      Reply
  6. Zolia Lian says

    January 30, 2019 at 8:45 pm

    Love it. Thanks for sharing❣

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  7. Adelina Teles says

    November 24, 2021 at 11:49 am

    Great mensagem I love it I will do a transcription for my daughter 15th birthday

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    • Tracey says

      November 25, 2021 at 9:28 am

      Thankful you enjoyed the post. Have a wonderful day!

      Reply

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