I have a shelf (or two) full of parenting books.
The desire of my heart is to raise Godly children who know and love their Saviour. Yet sometimes I rely too much on what I think I can do as a parent and forget to recognize that ultimately it is God Who must work in the lives of our children.
“We have far too high a view of our ability to shape our children and far too low a view of God’s love and trustworthiness.” from Give Them Grace by Elyse M. Fitzpatrick and Jessica Thompson
As our girls grow older, I’m realizing more and more how little I can accomplish in their hearts and how significant is the working of God in their lives. I can’t save my children; I can’t make them good little Christians. Oh, I can impose rules that make them look good on the outside, but only He can change their heart. Only His Holy Spirit power can convict them of sin, whether for salvation or for repentance. Only He can lead them in His perfect will. If my children turn out well, it’s ultimately because of God’s grace, not my good parenting.
The authors I quoted above share this thought as well.
“We are always to do our best, striving to be obedient and to love, nurture, and discipline them. But we are to do it with faith in the Lord’s ability to transform hearts, not in our ability to be consistent or faithful. Seeking to be faithfully obedient parents is our responsibility; granting faith to our children is His.”
So where does all this leave me as a mom? On my knees, praying for God to work in the lives of my children, for His glory and their good.
Nikki says
January 21, 2015 at 9:56 pmSo true! It's hard to leave them in God's hands, but He loves them even more than we do.
By the way, if you don't mind my asking, where are you from? I've noticed that you spell some words differently than we Americans do, like Saviour.
Tracey Brewer says
January 21, 2015 at 11:19 pmHa – I'm a good ol' American, born in Texas and raised in Virginia. I think sometimes I just go with the old spelling of words like Saviour. I spelled it that way growing up (perhaps from the King James Bible???) and have just never changed 🙂
Nikki says
January 22, 2015 at 10:13 pmWell, that's interesting! You can't get anymore American than Texas, I don't think!
Sues says
January 23, 2015 at 3:07 amAgreed! 😀
And whoa: "I can impose rules that make them look good on the outside, but only He can change their heart." This hit me like a TON OF BRICKS!!! YES!!!!!