What’s one of the most important things you can do for your daughter, no matter how old she is or what stage of life she’s in?
If you’ve been reading here long, I think you’ll know that my answer to that question would be to pray for her.
I write about prayer often here on the blog, even sharing written prayers, like my prayer for wisdom in my parenting, and how I pray God’s blessings on my family. (When I searched the word “pray” in my parenting blog posts, it brought up 400 posts that include that word!)
That doesn’t mean that I’m always as faithful in praying for our children as I should be. All too often, I skim though my prayer time quickly, ready to move on to the next thing. Yet I know there is so much I want to seek God for when it comes to my daughters. I have seen prayer at work in their lives – and when I look back over my own life, I know that much of what has come to pass has been because of parents who consistently pray for me.
I’ve created this list of ten areas in which I want to pray for our girls. I’m hoping that this list will be a reminder to me of requests to bring before God. I’ve included the Bible passages from which I gleaned these prayers, as I love the idea of praying God’s Word back to Him. You may also want to frame your own prayers from these verses, or add/substitute new categories that fit what you would like to see God do in and through your daughter.
1. Her purity. Ask that God will keep our daughters pure in thought and in action. Just living in our culture will expose her to wickedness and could tempt her to lower her standards of what is right and wrong.
Lord, help my daughter to keep her heart clean before you, to recognize temptation and to run from it, recognizing that God’s will for her life is for her to be pure. [Psalm 51:10; I Corinthians 6:18; I Thessalonians 4:3]
2. Her faith. This covers her walk with God, the state of her soul. First of all, has she accepted Jesus as her Savior? That is the first step she needs to take. If she has, I can pray for her spiritual growth. Is she spending time with God on a regular basis? Is she maturing in her Christian faith?
May my daughter walk in truth, resting in Jesus as the author and finisher of her faith, and growing daily in her relationship with Him. [3 John 4; Hebrews 12:2; Colossians 1:10]
3. Her attitude. Pray for her to have a sweet spirit. Many verses in Proverbs emphasize the importance of accepting correction and instruction, so we want our girls to have a teachable spirit as well.
Help her to exhibit the fruit of the Spirit. May love, joy, peace, patience, humility, and self-control mark her attitudes and her actions. Let her be willing to listen to those who have her best interest at heart. [Galatians 5:22-23; Proverbs 19:20]
4. Her friends. As women, we know the important role that friends play in our lives. In every stage, the people that our daughters choose to be around can either build them up and encourage them, or lead them away from what they should be.
May she have loving and faithful friends that build her up and encourage her in her Christian walk. [Proverbs 17:17; Proverbs 27:6, 17]
5. Her influences. While friends are a significant influence, there are other things impacting her life. Teachers, coaches, books she reads, music she listens to, movies she watches – all of these are speaking into her life.
Help her to seek wise influences, to discern when evil is involved, and hold on tightly to things that are good. [Proverbs 13:20; I Corinthians 15:33; I Thessalonians 5:21]
6. Her thought life. What our daughter thinks about will eventually come out in her actions. How we want to cover her thought life in prayer! What she thinks about God, about herself, and about others will cause her to make daily choices that can be either helpful or harmful.
Draw her to think on things that are good and praiseworthy. [Philippians 4:8]
7. Her focus. What is important to our daughter? What is she working towards? How does she use her time? We want our daughter to focus on building into her life things that will last forever.
8. Her priorities. We all know that our lives can get out of balance when we don’t put “first things first.” Focusing on knowing God, building relationships, setting good goals, having healthy habits, and developing her God-given talents are all things we want to encourage her in. Let’s pray that she will know how to keep her priorities in order.
Help her to seek first to know God, to serve God and not wealth, to value relationships, and to live out God’s calling for her life. [Matthew 6:33, 24; I Thessalonians 5:11; Ephesians 4:1]
9. Her service. I have prayed specifically for God to open doors of opportunity for our girls to serve in different ways. Then, as they get those opportunities, I pray that they will do it with right motives and for God’s glory.
May my daughter use the gifts you’ve given her to serve others, doing her service from a heart of love with pure motives, as if she were serving Christ Himself. [I Peter 4:10; Matthew 25:40]
10. Her future. No matter what stage our daughter is in, she has a future. Right now, my daughters’ futures include, among other things, a week of teen camp and a new school year as 10th and 8th graders. There is so much to pray for just right there!! Yet their future also may include college, a husband, a career, etc. Not a day goes by that I don’t want to pray for all that my girls have ahead of them. How thankful I am for a God Who holds all of their days in His hands!
Direct her steps, giving her confidence to know that your plans for her are full of goodness and peace, and beyond anything she can imagine for herself. [Proverbs 16:9; Jeremiah 29:11; I Corinthians 2:9]
I’ve created a free printable list of these ten items that you can use as you pray for your daughter. Click here to get a printable PDF.
Let’s ask God to burden our hearts to pray for these precious souls He’s entrusted to us!
Angie Church says
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Simply Farmhouse says
Hi Tracey, I saw your post on Country Girl by Stacy. Came by to see your blog. You have a lovely blog, I look forward to reading it.
Tracey Brewer says
Thanks so much for stopping by and for your kind words! I look forward to checking out your blog as well!
I am SOOO saving this list & putting it on my fridge.
Wow! What an amazing list! Thank you for sharing it! I'm going to have to bookmark it or pin it or something. 🙂
Elizabeth Spencer says
Tracey, seriously, everything you write is just so wise and lovely and important. I LOVE this. Am totally printing out your helpful graphic to put in my mailbox. (I pray while I walk outside, and I loop back and forth by the mailbox. I use an extra box that doesn't get used for actual mail or the paper, in case you're wondering.) Thank you for this! I came over to get the link to the post where you mention "I'm Happy For You" because I'm working on a list of new favorite things that I'm putting it on (with a link to your site, of course), and now I'm happily stuck here reading all your great recent posts. I needed that one, BTW, about us being on God's mind. Long story, but we've got some heartache around here these days and LOTS of uncertainty, so what you wrote at the end really touched me. Okay, sorry to ramble…trying to do 7 things at once!
Tracey Brewer says
Just saw your comment on this prayer post – was out of town last week and am finally catching up on e-mails and such. So appreciate your kind words, and I will be praying for you and your family this week, for God's peace and comfort through this heartache and His wisdom and patience as you face these uncertainties. So glad God connected our paths through the blogosphere!
Elizabeth Spencer says
Hello again, Tracey! I’m back on this fabulous post because I’m working on a post of my own that is a list of lists and want to include some lists from my favorite bloggers who’ve been such an encouragement to me. Naturally, such a list would not be complete without something from you. Would it be okay if I included a link to this post and your blog on that post? Feel free to say no. (Insert pout.) This won’t be out until late April…I’m just working on my base lists for now. Either way, thank you again for this beautiful piece!
Of course – you are more than welcome to link to any of my blog content!! I’m honored that you would ask, and that you’d include a post of mine in your “list of lists.”
Such a planner you are, working ahead! 🙂 I feel like I’m barely keeping up with blogging these days, but hope to get back on track soon. I’m intrigued by this upcoming list post you’ve mentioned, and look forward to reading it!
Have a great night!!
Elizabeth Spencer says
Thank you so much, Tracey! I’m honored to be able to share your words and wisdom! As for working ahead, I have to tell you it’s really just a matter of creating a placeholder for my blog, because once I get into May, it’s graduation and senior-year “stuff” ALL THE WAY. 😉 Blessings on your day, lovely lady!
Elizabeth Spencer says
Hi, Tracey…I’m back again to let you know my list post is finally up…with a link to this lovely piece and to Girls to Grow. Feel free to let me know if you see any changes I need to make. Thanks so much for letting me include you in my little round-up! 🙂
Just checked out the post, Elizabeth! Looks good, and gives me plenty of reading material for the afternoon 😉 Thanks again for including my post in your round-up!
Thank God for allowing me to find this article in the midst of my written prayers. These prayers are so important, especially now. I have two daughters and one son. My eldest daughter is 12 and going through puberty and all of these prayers are exactly what I pray for my daughter right now as the negative influences in the world are at an all time high. I pray that all evil spirits flee from all of my children and that God’s work reigns true overall. AMEN!
What a blessing that you pray for your three children! I love going back and reading through written prayers that I’ve prayed previously for my children and meditating on how God has answered them. It hasn’t always been in the way I thought it would be, but it’s been exactly what was needed. And I join you in praying that God will protect our children from negative influences.
Thank you so much for taking the time to comment here. Have a great day!
Why is her “purity” more important than her “faith”? That should be #1.
It wasn’t meant to be a list in order of importance, just a list of prayers to pray for our daughters. But yes, you’re correct, if it were going to be written in order of importance, faith would be at the top.
Thanks. I am a “purity culture” survivor so I am hyper-sensitive to how damaging it can be to a healthy view of one’s God-given sexuality. Bless 🙂
Understood! Thanks for reading the post and sharing your comment. Have a great day!!