Whether you’re an introvert married to an extrovert or a chronic clock watcher married to a procrastinator, there are probably a number of personality differences between you and your spouse.
On days when we’re wishing our husband or wife was more like ourselves, perhaps these three truths can bring some perspective to the situation.
1. Accept the differences in your personalities. Don’t try to change your spouse, but recognize that God made him/her that way. Pray for any weaknesses and encourage your husband or wife in their strengths.
2. With God’s help, your personalities can complement each other and bless many. Qualities that your husband or wife has can cause you to become a better person. The two of you together make a unique couple, so pray that God will use you, with your different personalities, to minister to others.
3. If you look for the positives in your differences, you’ll find them; if you look for the negatives, you’ll find those, too. Learn to love and embrace the differences between you! One area in which I’m finding this helpful is in parenting. My husband often has a better place from which to interact with our daughters based on how his personality connects with theirs.
How thankful I am that God put my husband and I – each with our own distinct personalities – together in our own special relationship!
aurie good says
Oh yes – #3 is so true. I also have learned that when I look for the *negative* qualities in my sweet husband, I find them in myself as well! Happy Monday!!
I find #2 to be so true. When we work together, it's amazing how our gifts complement each other and how quickly and efficiently we can get things done. What a wonderful gift God has given us in our spouses!
CE Watson says
Years ago, I heard an older lady say, "Different isn't bad, different is just different. Learn to love the differences!" Sorry to say I spent way too much time trying to make "sameness", rather than embracing the differences! Thanks for these reminders, Tracey!
YES!!! We definitely compliment each other! 🙂