I believe in the importance of a daughter developing a special relationship with her dad. I have benefited immensely from being close to my father, and am excited to see my husband and our girls spending time together. They enjoy accompanying him on trips to Lowes and the county dump(!), but as they’ve gotten older, we’ve realized the importance of them having one-on-one time with him.
I know many families have regular daddy-daughter dates, and that’s what we began planning some months ago. As with most things in our lives, we knew they wouldn’t happen if we didn’t schedule them. Since weeknights and Saturdays tend to fill up with other activities, we decided that Sundays after the evening church service would be a convenient time.
On the first Sunday night of each month, my husband takes our oldest daughter out for dessert. He does the same with our younger daughter on the third Sunday night (with rescheduling allowed occasionally, for significant events like the Super Bowl 😉
Most of the time it’s something simple – a milkshake from the Arby’s value menu, a doughnut at Dunkin’ Donuts, or a Wendy’s Frosty. Occasionally they’ll do something a little more extravagant, or even substitute a Saturday morning breakfast out, but the point is not how much money it costs – or even the food that’s eaten – but the time spent together.
While the immediate benefits include keeping those lines of communication open, I also know that when our girls get older, they will look back on these dates as treasured memories.