In nearly twenty years of marriage, I hope I’ve developed ways of interacting with my husband that are positive and helpful. I know I still have much to learn and am thankful that my husband is patient and that the Lord continues to work in our marriage.
However, if you have no interest in developing a loving relationship with your spouse, I have found three effective ways to drive your husband away.
- Nag him. Repeatedly ask him to fix the squeaky door or trim the bushes in the yard, increasing the frustration in your voice with each request. Don’t ask just once; make sure you mention it every time he sits down to read the newspaper or stretches out on the couch for a nap.
- Belittle him. If he completes a task in a way that doesn’t measure up to your expectations, point it out to your children. When talking with a group of ladies at church, mention how he never helps around the house. Let your husband know how well another man meets the needs of his family.
- Betray his confidence. Tell your mother, your best friend, the next-door neighbor the thoughts and ideas that your husband shared with you privately. Once he realizes what you have done (and he will), it will be a very long time – if ever – before he opens up to you again.
As Christian wives who long for strong marriages, I hope that we can avoid these traps and build relationships that bring honor to our Lord.