This qualifies as parenting lesson number 14,356. As if I could keep count of the lessons I’ve learned as a parent so far….
Our 13-year-old got an MP3 player last Christmas; our 11-year-old has an old one of her dad’s. I’ve downloaded every song (classical, Sound of Music, or old Disney mostly) or audiobook (lots of Adventures in Odyssey!) they’ve purchased, so I know exactly what’s on there.
Yesterday one of the girls bought a few songs. There was one I hadn’t heard before; it was from a more recent Disney movie, but I assumed it was okay.
After I downloaded it onto her and her sister’s MP3 players, I decided to listen to it. I realized I wasn’t crazy about the actual music and was confident that a few of the lyrics weren’t what I wanted going into my daughters’ minds on a regular basis (nothing morally objectionable, but more of an attitude thing).
Time to backtrack.
I pulled up the words to the song on my laptop and called the girls in so we could read through them together. Hopefully it was a teachable moment; I won’t be monitoring their music choices this way when they’re 18, so I tried to explain my objections in a way they could understand.
We deleted it from their devices, I bought them another song (since my daughter had used her own money to purchase it), and we moved on.
But parenting lesson number 14,356 for me is: never download a song to my child’s MP3 player that I haven’t listened to myself.
And I’m confident that lesson number 14,357 is just moments away.
Have you ever allowed your child to have or do something and later had to change your mind?