It’s one of those things they don’t tell you about before you have a daughter. Someone really should warn us mothers about it.
It’s hair angst.
Admittedly, I have enough of it to deal with on my own. Is it time for more highlights? Should I grow out some of my layers? Is my hair thinning?
And for almost 13 years now, I’ve added more hair angst in the form of two girls.
I always admired the toddlers with the big hair bows that matched their outfits. Most days I was happy if mine had a plastic barrette clipped in to keep the hair out of their eyes. Honestly, though, I’ve looked back at some pictures from when my girls were little and I did better than I remember – some days – at having their hair look cute.
These days I have one daughter who requires only a hairbrush and the occasional hair elastic. She thinks that’s enough “fuss” about hair. I have another daughter who would love it if I were gifted enough to give her elaborate up-dos. Sadly, she often does her own hair better than I can.
They make most of their own decisions about their hair now, but sometimes I slide in a suggestion. At least it’s some comfort to know I’m not alone in this struggle.
Not long ago, my girls and I sat in the hair salon waiting to get haircuts. A mother with a young teenage daughter came in. They had a brief discussion over how much of the girl’s long hair to cut, the mother encouraging her daughter to cut more of it off than the daughter initially wanted. A few minutes later, another mother came in with her two daughters. They browsed through a few hairstyle books, the mom coaching them about whether or not they should get bangs or layers.
Admittedly, it’s a delicate balance when your daughter asks your opinion about a hairstyle or the way they’ve arranged it on a particular day. Straightened or curled? Hot rollers or curling iron? Ponytail or braid? Makes my head hurt.
I’m thankful for my girls and their hair and that they even ask my opinion about it at times. I’m guessing boys don’t have these particular bonding moments with their moms over hairbands and pink foam rollers, so I’ll enjoy these days and keep practicing my French braids.
Do you spend much time dealing with your children’s hair?