“If you don’t try to create the future you want, you must endure the future you get.” ~John C. Maxwell in The 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth
I’m in the midst of re-reading John Maxwell’s book and finding new gems that I missed the first time. While the quote above certainly applies to personal growth, I also considered it in light of our children’s future.
What future do I want for them? Here are three things I know for sure.
- I want them to love God. How do I create that future? Help them learn more about Him. We can study the Bible together, memorize verses as a family, pray together, create an environment in which they feel comfortable talking about spiritual things. I was blessed to have that growing up and hope that we can pass that same heritage on to our girls.
- I want them to serve others through ministry. To create that future, they can begin serving now. My twelve-year-old helps me in the 2-to-3 year old nursery and in our children’s church program. Both girls play piano offertories. When I’m taking a meal to another family, I like for them to help with the cooking or go with me to deliver the food. Most importantly, I want to teach them that they are serving God as they are meeting the needs of others. As Matthew 25:40 tells us, “And the King shall answer and say unto them, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me.”
- I want them to develop healthy relationships. Perhaps the best way I can create this in my girls’ future is to exemplify it by how I relate to their dad and model it in how I treat family and friends. There are situations that lead us into discussions of how to relate to those who agree with them, as well as those who disagree. A sibling provides plenty of opportunities to demonstrate selflessness and allows them to pray for one another and bear each other’s burdens.
As do most mothers, I want a future for our girls that is bright and full of hope and promise! God alone knows the future and it is only by His grace that I can carry out these desires, but I pray that I will do my part in creating a future for our children that includes a love for God, service for Him, and a host of healthy relationships.