If you’re like me, you may have discovered that you have a blind spot when you’re driving your car. It’s that small square of pavement that can’t be seen from your side or rearview mirror, and it causes me to glance over my shoulder quite often when I start to change lanes on the highway.
One of my fears is that I will have a blind spot when it comes to my children. I never want to be the parent who has no clue what their child is really like or how he acts when he’s away from them. I desire to know my children, encouraging their strengths and correcting their weaknesses. However, I also recognize the danger of concentrating so strongly on small faults that I miss some huge character flaw.
Therefore, I have come up with five strategies that I hope will help eliminate any blind spots from developing.
- Prayer. I pray that if my child is doing something wrong, she will be found out so that correction can take place. I also need to ask for insight into areas of my children’s lives that I may be overlooking.
- Spend time with my children, interacting as well as observing. How does she respond to authority? What type of influence do her friends have on her?
- Be approachable. If a teacher or other adult comes to me about my child’s misbehaviour, may I react with grace, not immediately defending my child, but taking the account seriously.
- Ask my husband. He often sees our children in a different light and has valuable input about attitudes and actions that need to be addressed.
- Give up on perfect. After all, my goal is not to raise a perfect child, but a Godly one who knows how to ask for forgiveness when she’s made mistakes. As I accept that each of my children will struggle at times, I can be open to helping them grow to be the young ladies that God would have them to be.
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