I am always in search of good parenting books and recently finished reading The Pursuit of Godly Seed by Denny Kenaston. At over 400 pages, it took nearly two months for me to finish the book, but I was able to find some helpful advice.
One of my favorite chapters is entitled “The Spirit of Law and the Spirit of Grace.” It contrasts the Old Testament covenant of the law with New Testament grace and relates them to parenting.
Here are just a few of the points the author makes as he explains the differences between parenting by law and parenting by grace.
- “The spirit of law discourages; the spirit of grace encourages.”
- “The spirit of law is never good enough; the spirit of grace blesses each new step.”
- “The spirit of law criticizes; the spirit of grace gives the benefit of the doubt.”
- “The spirit of law exposes sin and remembers it; the spirit of grace forgives and forgets.”
- “The spirit of law is performance oriented; the spirit of grace is relationship oriented.”
As I examine the differences between administering law or grace, I desire to be a mother that parents through the lens of grace. While rules and structure are a necessary part of life, I want my children always to know that there is love and encouragement for them as well as forgiveness when they transgress. Just as Jesus has extended his “grace beyond measure” to me, a sinner, so may I live out that grace in my relationships with my children.